Here’s a question for you: Are you assessing your talents through a lens of potential or a lens of limits?
There’s no right way to answer the question. Nor is there a wrong way. Considering your answer, connecting with your spirit, is a deeply mindful activity. This is where you begin to understand the power of your thoughts, your truth.
When I was in eighth grade, I had a teacher who told me that I was a weak writer. In college, I had a conservative business writing professor tell me my writing was too stiff. Those comments still sting today. When I was forty, I went to a writing workshop given by the brilliant and quirky Natalie Goldberg. I left believing that I was a writer. Right away I began crafting my first book. Since then, I’ve published blogs, books and articles.
But, even as I write, I continue to wonder…Can I really write?
Writing is not my most natural talent. I have to work really hard at it. And, sometimes I have used the critical feedback given to me earlier in my life as an excuse to stop writing instead of working to get better. Can I really write? is an example of what I call a limiting belief. Limiting beliefs are doubts or fears that get in the way of you clarifying and going after your vision, doing the work you love. Limiting beliefs can stop you cold before you even begin. Here are some limiting beliefs related to talents and work:
- I know I would be good at coding; however, it’s too late for me to learn a new skill.
- I’m lucky to have a job! I’ll stay here for another ten years, then do what I really love in retirement.
- I love to paint but I could never sell one of my paintings because I didn’t go to art school.
- My boss is preventing me from doing good work.
- I would love to have a business of my own but I don’t have the experience I need to launch my idea.
- I’ve wasted my life. I should’ve moved to Italy when I was 22. Now I’m too old.
It’s my great honor to work with clients every day dissecting their limiting ideas, bringing them to a deeper and clearer truth. This truth that lives underneath a limiting belief is what I call an empowering belief. Committing to the exploration of our limiting and empowering beliefs always leads to healing and action.
In my process with writing (and many other challenges), I continue to explore, develop and test the beliefs I hold because they are so entangled with who I am, what I believe about myself and others. For example, I have siblings and several close friends who are, in my opinion, strong and natural writers. My old belief was that they were the writers and I was not. What I’ve learned since then is that I can learn to write only if I write. This is the empowering belief and this is what is fueling me in this moment to complete this blog.
Another tactic to challenge limiting beliefs is to focus on the evidence that supports your empowering beliefs. For example, I have had many of you write to me saying that this series is helping you. I hope from this installment; you can see how much YOU are helping me. Because of you, I continue to write, explore and help others. Thank you for empowering me!
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